Monday #MomHack… Ask for help.
Ask for help from your spouse, your kids, your extended family, your friends, and your church.
We don’t have to go it alone. We are designed to live within families, within communities.
Asking for help sometimes means hiring a housekeeper, asking another parent to drive your kids places, asking older kids to pitch in more. (Asking them to pitch in more, even when they already do a lot?)
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2) While the context points to this primarily as bearing one another’s burdens of sin and temptation, I don’t think it is a stretch to apply it to bearing one another’s burdens of living in a mixed up, fallen world. Life is hard. It is harder when we are alone.
Sometimes shame keeps us from asking for help. We feel like we need to have it all together so that we can help others. Or, sometimes we feel like we have to prove that we don’t “need” the help before we ask for help. That was how I felt, especially when my older kids were little. That I had to prove that I could keep up with kids, homeschooling, housekeeping, errands — all of it — before I had “earned” the right to ask for help. What kind of twisted thinking is that?
It was hard for me to ask for help. It was hard for me to hire a housekeeper, when I could finally afford one. I felt like I didn’t deserve the help. I still struggle — as if I have to prove I wasn’t dumb for having all these kids and choosing motherhood as my primary career path when it really is challenging for me.
When I ask for and graciously receive help from others, I’ve found others are more willing to ask me to help them. I’m willing to give of my time and energy to other moms — eager, even. Yet, because I’ve been humbled enough to ask for help, it feels like others are willing to ask me to help them.
This builds community. This builds our relationships. This is good.
Ask for help.
That’s my #MomHack this Monday. What about you?