Month: December 2016

Solstice 2016

 

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“The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light;
those who dwelt in a land of deep darkness,
on them has light shone. …

For the yoke of his burden, and the staff for his shoulder,
the rod of his oppressor, you have broken…

For to us a child is born, to us a son is given;
and the government shall be upon his shoulder,
and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor,
Mighty God,
Everlasting Father,
Prince of Peace.

(from Isaiah 9 ESV)

Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

(from John 8 ESV)

Remembering David

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Today we remember David Fetzer. He was a creative soul — director, actor, musician. He was one of my brother’s closest friends, and very dear to my parents as well. Four years ago, he died from an unintentional prescription drug overdose. He had been getting help. It wasn’t suicide — all signs pointed to him trying to get free from addiction.

David Fetzer was a creative soul — director, actor, musician.

Similarly, about eight years ago, our neighbor’s son died from an unintentional prescription drug overdose. Again, he was at the point of getting help.

Please take some time to read this article by David’s mother about how dependence on prescription drugs can happen slowly, and how hard it is to break free.

Shifting Sands. . . and Teens

Life has shifted.

My oldest has been away at college for three years. The next three teens graduate high school in the next three years. One right after another.

I had four kids in five years when I was in my 20s.

It was exciting, it was fun, it was exhausting.

Well-meaning people would be sympathetic to the work and energy required, and would offer advice and encouragement. “remember, they are little for such a short time!” I embraced that. The days are long and the years are short, was my mantra when I was knee-deep in laundry and nursing and noise.

What those well-meaning people didn’t remember to say was that they are only teens for a short time, too. One day they would all be starting high school, then I would blink, and they would be gone.

We did treasure the early years. We have happy memories of making play dough and building pyramids and the Sphinx. We did treasure the middle years. We built our family traditions. Even now the kids know to expect socks and underwear in their Christmas stickies, along with some candy and an orange — a tradition started during our leanest years when I tried to make the gifts under the tree look more abundant with necessities.

Your memories are likely much like mine, full of funny family stories and laughter. You were intentional, investing your time and yourself into your children. Even when you remember the struggles, I bet overall you feel like it has been a joy.

Life is good now, too. Yet, I feel a shift in our family dynamics — and something isn’t quite how I want it.

I don’t have the energy I once had, and the intense emotional and intellectual needs of teens is hard. I’ve felt myself become more distracted — distracted both by the logistics of life and the technology right at hand.

I love my teens dearly, and we’ve been a close family. Yet, I get surprised by what I don’t know about them. I’m sad that we aren’t as attached as we once were. I know that they are growing and maturing and that is good — and at the same time, I feel like we can get to a place of being more connected.

This has been on my mind a lot lately. It’s been in my conversations with Hubby and even with the teens. I don’t want us to just drift through these last years at home and drift apart. We need connection.

#GivingTuesday 2016

Yesterday was #GivingTuesday — a great reminder to all of us to both plan for our monthly, regular giving throughout the year as well as an opportunity to give spontaneously.

Some of you may know that my background is in nonprofit management and fundraising. If you haven’t made your giving plans for next year, touch base with me and let me know what brings out your passion — missions, arts, children, health. . . I’m happy to steer you in the direction of organizations which may help put feet to your passions!

(I’m not currently working with or consulting with any nonprofits. . . I just really find fulfillment in connecting caring people with organizations that are a good fit for their giving.)

St. Andrew's Kirk hurricane relief efforts have been greatly helped by our ministry partners. Mission to The World visited Nassau today and brought by another generous contribution.

St. Andrew’s Kirk hurricane relief efforts have been greatly helped by our ministry partners. Mission to The World visited Nassau today and brought by another generous contribution.